Ideally look for someone that stimulates your mind. Everything else that comes after will be heightened with that initial connection. By the same token don’t be fooled by pseudo minds either, those that seem to have all the right words. After all they might have just picked up some techniques to win you over (saying what they know you want to hear) without any of the good intentions that comes with a real Dom who will protect you until the ends of the earth whilst taking your body to pieces. It becomes such another world when the mind is involved, subsequently everything else becomes heightened. Surrender is sublime but involves mind, body and soul; its complex. But when it happens… it’s nirvana.